Our first car!!!

OUR FIRST CAR!

This blog is a reaaallly long time coming! I have just been so busy with life that I haven't done much blogging at all lately! :(


WE GOT A CAR! We bought our very first car this past may. We really had no idea what all went into buying a car and we hit a few road blocks along the way. First we had to save up the money. Then we needed to find insurance. Finally we needed to pick and buying a car

Saving for a car

     We saved for a about a year for our car. This part is very hard! Charlie and I mostly support our selves and each other financially. Some people don't know how lucky they are to be given a car as a gift or have help paying for it. It took us a little longer then we wanted to save up because we do have bills and other needs. We managed to save up a little over 3,000 for our car by may. That is usually about how much a down payment will cost so inc we saved up enough for a down payment we started looking into car insurance.

Finding out first car

       We where very smart when looking for our first car. We did A LOT  of research! We spend hours on line searching different websites and looking up all the car facts. We knew right away we wanted a use car with not a lot of miles on it. The less car accidents and issues the better. At first we wanted a kia soul. However after doing some research, watching some youtube videos, and reading some reviews we found out that the kia felt very boxy to drive. So we decided to look into other car types. We finally found our car on carmax.com! A white 2003 oldmobile alero for 7,000. The price was  perfect for us. The car facts looked great. One other owner and it had no past accidents. It only had 81,000 miles on it. We totally fell in love! Now our next step was to find some car insurance that we could afford.

CAR INSURANCE

       Car insurance was a huge pain for us. Most people are ages are on their parents insurance or have been driving long enough to get a cheap rate. Charlie is a new driver and I still just have my learners so insurance was ridiculously high for us. We went to a bunch of places such as Allstate, state farm, etc and the rate for full cover was way more then we could manage right now. At first we only wanted to put a down payment on the car but to do that we would need full coverage. We decided we would have to pay a car in full to be able to afford insurance. It was very depressing and super bummed us out. It took us so long to get to the point where we had enough money saved up to put a down payment of a car. We where so excited and ready to start the car buying process. Then we hit this huge rode block it was heart breaking! We needed a car and we needed a plan. We talked through many plans with our families. Hope was not lost! We finally came up with a plan that worked for us! We would pay for our down and get help from Charlie's dad and step mom. We of course would pay them back as soon as we had the money! This was such a blessing! We are so thankful to them for helping us out! We really could have done it with out them! Once we had a plan we decided to get liability car insurance from geico.

Buying our car!!

         Now that we had the car insurance taken care of there was just one thing left to do!!! Finally going to buy our first car. We went to carmax in white marsh Maryland. It is about 20 min from where we live. It was really surprisingly a easy and smooth process. Charlie was super nervous about the test drive so he let his dad drive the car but he rode along for the test drive. They where out for a test drive roughly 30 min. The car ran great. The next step was payment and a whole lot a paper work. The whole process took about 2 hours. After everything was signed and paid for they handed us the keys! An amazing feeling! We finally had our own car that we worked really hard for. We had freedom and a whole lot of adventures ahead of us. Charlie's dad had to show us how all the buttons and such worked. Then we where off with a car of our very own!

Our advice to first car buyers!

          Our advice for you is to  first save save SAVE! If you are looking to buy a car and you aren't getting any help from your parents the first step is to at least save up for a down payment on a car. That means at least saving $3,000. Save as much as you can anywhere you can save it. Then once you have enough in the bank for a down payment time to crack open Google and do as much research as you can! Find out what car works for you then get as much background on that car as you can. Look up the car facts, read reviews, and watch reviews. After you have done you research find a car insurance plan that works for you. If something doesn't work out the first try don't get discouraged. Just come up with another plan. Remember a car is a lot of responsibility! Be smart behind the wheel! A text message can wait and never get behind the wheel if you have been drinking. Never drive faster then your angel can fly. Thanks for reading! I hope you found this helpful! Good luck!


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Relationships VS Gift Giving

         

                                      GIFT GIVING

       Getting and reserving gift are great! It is even greater in relationships. Giving a gift is a great way to show the one you love how well you know their personalty and what they like. Gift giving doesn't come easy for everyone. Shopping for gifts can get confusing and stressful! There are so many different types of gift giving events through the year such as birthdays, anniversary, and of course holidays. Here are a few tips to getting the best gift for him or her.

                        

                                        Gifts for her

         Guys don't panic! I know how stressful it must be to shop for that special gift for that special lady. Here are a few tips to keep in mind while shopping. 1) What is the occasion? :  Occasion means everything! You tend to go bigger the bigger the occasion. Sometimes more goes into the gift for different occasions. For your anniversary take your lady got on a romantic dinner to a place that really means something special in your relationship like where you had your first date. If you can manage not to burn down your home make her her favorite meal. For her birthday plan a surprise birthday party for her! Invite all her closest friends and family. 2) Her like and dislikes. While shopping keep in mind her favorite, scents, colors, brands, actors, authors, stores, and styles. 3) Listen! She will drop hints fellas so keep your ears open! She will guide you to the gifts she has been wanting. Now for some gift ideas!

•  FOR THE MUSIC LOVER! : If your lady is a singer or musician some great gifts would be Beats head phones ( $110 +), A itunes gift card, Her favorite artist new album ( $20 ), A mix CD of all her favorite songs, if you are musically gifted write and perform a song just for her, or take her out to a concert that she has been dying to go to. 
• FOR THE MAKEUP AND FASHION LOVER! : Plan her a day of beauty! Take her to get her hair, makeup and nails done then pick a spending limit and take her on a shopping spree. Then pick her out a special outfit to take her out to a special dinner.
• FOR THE BOOKWORM! : Buy her a kindle or nook and add a few of her favorite books or a few of her favorite authors. Buy her a year subscription to her favorite magazines.
• FOR THE JEWELRY LOVER! : DIAMONDS ARE ALWAYS A GOOD IDEA! Know her sizes, her favorite color, her favorite gems, her favorite cuts, and designers.
• FOR THE TRAVELER! : Pack your bags boys! Take her on a romantic get away for two. Take her to her favorite place or somewhere she has always wanted to visit.
• FOR THE MOVIE BUFF! : Take her to a romantic movie that she has been dying to see, cuddle up on the coach have a marathon of her favorite movies, take her to a drive in movie or a movie in the park. 

                                 

                                    GIFTS FOR HIM

        Lets face it ladies we live for getting gifts and shopping for them! We will take any reason to head to the mall! Guys are super easy to please and even easier to shop for but of course we go the extra mile to make it special.  We as woman tend to wanna out do everyone else same goes for gifts! The better the gift the better girlfriend you are. The problem with being such good gift givers is we have to out due that gift the next Christmas or birthday! If you just started shopping for the guy you just started dating and  you really wanna impress him here are a few gift ideas.

• THE GAMER GUY! : Get this fellas the newest hottest game that he has been wanting ( $60 ) up that by getting him the special edition of that game. Get him a new customized controller or head set. If the game he really wants isn't out go ahead and pre-order is for him. If you really have some extra cash and really REALLY love him get him the newest consoles. 
• THE SPORTS FAN! : Take your man to see his favorite teams play. Buy him his favorite team member jersey. Buy him any sports related!
• THE EATER! : Make him his favorite meal with a little something something special for dessert.
• THE NERD! : Buy him all the new electronics! Ipods, Beats, New desktop computer or laptop, kindle or nook, or the smartest smart phone
• THE CAR LOVER : Take him to a car show.
• THE BLING BLING GUY! : A new watch, ring, or necklaces. Matching jewelry always cute and special.

                     

       My best advice is you don't have to spread millions of dollars for something to be special. After all the most special gift you give to him/her you give to them every moment everyday. The great gift you can give someone his your heart, endless love, and affection. Diamonds lose their sparkle, we grow out of clothes, and the newest games or technology is always yesterdays news. All the must have material things just wide up sitting around just collecting dust. What really sticks is what comes from the heart. A romantic love note, A good romantic home cooked meal, a home made mix tape made up of all those romantic love songs that mean the most, a slow dance under the stars, a walk on the beach, or a home message. Make something that they will treasure for a life time. True love never dulls its spark. A heart never collects dust. Make it come from the heart. Make your gift mean something special. Keeping living. Keep loving.

                                                                                                                                                                                             xoxo wizzy  

Relationships VS Personal Space

      


                                                 RELATIONSHIPS VS PERSONAL SPACE



       Boundaries and personal space can become some what challenging in growing relationships. The invasion of personal space usually comes later in relationship. Invasion of personal space can occurs when a couple desires to move in together for the first time.  Here is a few ways to handle if your personal space is being invaded in a relationship.


                   


      Woohoo! What an excited time in your relationship! You have decided to move into together! This may feel a little strange but wonderful for those of you moving in with someone other then your parents for the first time! It was great at first. Just the two of you. Cuddling. Watching movies. Walking around naked. Slowly falling a sleep in each other's arms. No rules. You are free to do what you want to do. You are officially playing house. After a few months you start to feel....invaded. It isn't bad to feel that way but know that the invasion isn't being done on purpose. You start to notice it slowly. You start to feel a little crapped and uncomfortable. For the fellas it may be a shock seeing tampons in the bathroom and all of a sudden your killer dude pad is now pink and frilly. For the ladies things might not be so ladies like anymore. It is ok that he farts it may be horrifying at first but for the sack of love we endure their smells and sounds.


                          


    When personal space is being invaded it is important to respect boundaries. Make sure to take some me time when you feel like you need a little space. Go for a walk. Take a bubble bath. Take a drive. Take the dog to the park. Go shopping. Read. Get a message. Meditate. Go to the gym. Go for a run. Write. Build something. Crafts. Take up a hobby or class.  It is ok to take some separate time from each other. It is health for the relationship and will avoid may explosive arguments. Me time can even save a relationship.


                  


        If you are experiencing some invasion of space talk through it right away! This issue really isn't a big one so don't make a big deal over it. Set boundaries. Set some guild line but not rules! Be like "Hun can you please not turn off my tv shoe to put on the game? Please ask me first. If I can watch my show later you can watch the game. Just ask." or "Hey babe. Can you make sure to clean up all your makeup and put it away so I can have room for my stuff in the bathroom?"  Each of you every week set some me time a side for yourselves. Communication is the key to fixing any mishap or problem in any relationship. Remember. Keep living. Keep learning. Keeping Laughing. Keep loving.

Relationship VS Friendships

   

Relationship VS Friendships

       Relationships and friendships are a like in so many ways. They both can be toxic or amazing. They both good or bad can be life changing in so many different ways. They can both be positive or heart breaking. It all depends on the person and the people in the relationship.

                                                    

       Personally I have my fair share of failed friendships. I'll see someone from high school that I use to be really close to and itll just be a hi and bye. The way I feel is as you grow ether people grow with you or they drift away. It's very sad it's true but that's just how life rolls. Then there are times where you are made to cut ties with a friend. That's my life story! My best friend of 14 years I had to cut ties with because of lies and jealousy. Friendships for me where full of drama and headache so I decided I just didn't need that negative in my life.

                                 

        My husband on the other hand is total opposite! He feels if he doesn't have his group of friends he has a empty hole. He feels like male companies is a must to a complete happy life. He likes to go to the gym with his bros and party's with his group of friends. He even has man dates with his best friend. He also plays video games with his bros. I do understand where my husband is comeing from. Companionship is important in life. For me my husband is my bestfriend. He is the one I talk about everything with. He is the one I want to spend all my time with. I share everything with him. We laugh together. We cry together. Noone understands me like my husband does. I rather stay in with a movie then go out and party. I dont need anyone else because I have him and that's all I want. My husband is also younger then me by two years. He is 20 and I am 22. Because he is so young he still feels the need to go out with his friends. I don't complain about him hanging out with his friends. I go to his friends party's, put on a nice smile, and try my best to fit in with everyone. Just because I put on a pretty face doesn't mean that his friendships don't bother me sometimes.


                                    
     His friends and even their parents have had negative things to say about out relationship. Me and my husband have been together for 3 years but he friends think I make him grow up too fast. That's been a problem for me because I have never pressured my husband with anything. I just get upset because I don't feel like its ok for him to be spending the night with his best friend 3 nights out of the week leave me all alone. We both work so we hardly get any time together all ready so the time we do have is really precious to me. I am his wife and there has to be a time when I can say ok I think it's time we had alone time. Maybe even take me on a date instead of your best friend.


                              
     I love my husband dearly and I know his friends mean alot to him so I just let him do his thing because I know as he gets older he'll settle down more. So ladies my advice for you if your husband or boyfriend is having a bromance or like spending time with his friends just go with it. Even spends some time with him and his friends. He'll really appreciate that you know what is important to him and you don't push him. But know when to cross the line. Know when to say ok I need some love over here please.:) if his friendships really bother you tell him! Talk it out. I know it may fell like it some times but he can't read your mind. He can't make it better if you don't tell him what's what.
   Keep loving. Keep living.
                     Xoxo wizzy

Relationships VS Exs

                                


                                                                  Relationship VS Exs




         Ex's...some of them move on with their lives but then you have the ones who don't want you but don't want you to be with anyone else. Of course you know the type. The ones who can go out with anyone but don't want you to be happy. I noticed that it more happens with girls then guys! Ex's are hard to get over depending on the relationship. They really do like to mess things up when you find something good.

                    

        Now Exs were a big problem when me and my husband first started dating. He didn't have the best track record before we met. There was only two of his ex's that really bothered me. We will call them EX A and Ex B. Well Ex B wasn't anything really serious. She was one of those....there really isn't a nice word for it....sluts! I am really not being judge mental she really was a slut. She would sleep with a guy just because he gave her a ride home from the party! Really girl just give him gas money not your vagina! Their relationship really didn't last long but once me and my husband started dating she came out of the wood work. She would txt him asking him for birthday sex and asking if me and him had sex! Who does that! After that my husband deleted her number for good! Now Ex A was a little more serious....he even said he thought she was the one. She was the type of girl who liked to play head games with people. She really hurt my husband but when we met of course I fixed all that! The first night we met he said he knew I was the real girl he was going to grow old with. Ex A really didn't like that she even told him I was only of his brilliant mistake and that we never last. She even got really pissed because he didn't say hi to her while me and him where on a date. Back when they dated she told him she fell out of love with him then wanted him back when she got bord. He finally cut ties with her then met me about a month later. Even after 4 years she still wants him to run back to her. She is the ex that doesn't want the guy but doesn't want anyone else to be happy with him.

                     

        Now they don't always have to have had a romantic relationship or been bf and gf to be an ex. Their are also sometimes the sex Exs. The girls they hooked up with, fuck buddies, one night stands, and the sexting buddies. Luckily i haven't had much trouble with these exs! No its normal for guys to sexting buddies. Most guys and girls have them now a days. My husband had one who he was very close friends with. It really didn't bother me at first because the past is the past i am the future. Then she started to try to sext him while me and him where together. So not ok! Then my husband match her and his best friend up. It was so awkward being around her. She would always check him.out and tried being really flirty with him. Turns out she had been cheating the whole year she had been with my husbands best friend. Thankfully none of us talk to her anymore.


                         

   Exs have been one of my biggest speed pumps in my relationship because i hated seeing how much they hurt him and wanted to hurt us. So here is some advice. Release that your his upgrade! Don't stoop to their level! you are better then the rest that is why he is with you and not them. If he really wanted them he would still be after them. He is with you because you are ment to be together. When you do happen to run ito his ex smile big, hold onto his arm, and lay a big kiss on him! show them what they let go and are never getting back. Be proud to be the one he choose to spend his life with. The past doesn't matter because you are his girl now and you'll never hurt him. You make his life better and a hell of a lot easier. There is no reason to fight an ex after all you already one the prize.

Relationships VS The Honeymoon Phase

The honeymoon phase!

  Ah the honeymoon phase. One of the sweetest times in any relationship. For those of you who don't know what the honeymoon phase is let me take a moment to explain. The honeymoon phase is at the beginning of every relationships. It consist of butterflies that feel more like killer bees in your stomach, blushing, everything is all sunshine and rainbows, you guys never fight, he's charming, she's lovely, you smile so much your cheeks heart, your heart pounds, you want you spend all your time together, you can't keep your hands off each other, blowing off plans to hangout with each other, endless PDA, etc.  It is a magical time where you and your partner our just figuring things out and finding out more and more about each other. Admit it! You giggled like a little school girl at his jokes! Alas this phase doesn't last forever. 

   There comes a time where the honeymoon period does end but that doesn't mean the relationship has to end as well. The honeymoon phase tends to end around 6 months to a year. That when most relationship die off or the couple give up because things aren't as easy as it use to be. It doesn't have to be that way. The honeymoon phase doesn't make a relationship what comes after does. When you finally get into a groove as a couple things seem to simmer down. How many time have you said " We act like an old married couple already?!". So tell me what is so wrong with being like and old married couple. I personally love it! The pressure is off now! You can lay around looking a hot mess and your man still loves you! Thing get tough that's how we learn and grow. You may fight a little bit more and cuddle a little bit less but that shouldn't change the way you feel about each other. It should just make you stronger as a couple.  The first year is the easiest, the five years after that are the hardest, but if you tick it through its all down hill after that. 

   Wanna know how to get through the tough years after the honeymoon ends? All is not lost! Even though the honeymoon is over doesn't mean the butterflies and good times have to stop. The main thing to remember is don't forget how to treat each other. Never ever go to bed angry! If you have a fight even if it takes all night talk it through till you get it all out on the table and get everything you need to off your chest. You never go to bed mad at each other because the next day isn't a guarantee. Fighting is a good thing because if you give up fighting then that's when it's over. Say I love you as much as possible you can never say it enough. You don't  need to do big things. A little love note or a surprise romantic dinner date at home with his favorite meal will do the trick nicely. Little everyday reminders are important tell her she beautiful if her sweats and her hair a mess. Tell him that you love him more then the first day you met. Tell each other everything. Be each others best friend. Own up if you make a mistake. Learn together. Grow together. Never give up. That's how you make it work.

keep loving. keep living.

                       xoxo wizzy

Relationships VS Pet Peeves

Relationships vs Pet Peeves 

       It is inevitable in life and relationship to find something that is going to drive you nuts! That little something is called a pet peeve! We all have them. Even the nicest people in the world have pet peeves. It's just human nature to get annoyed. Pet peeves are not big deal and are normal however they can become a issue in a relationship depending on how big the peeve is. 

                                          

       Your significant other can do things that are as annoying or even more annoy then anyone else you come in contact with on  a daily basis.    If you are anything like me you tend to feel bad when it comes time in the relationship where pet peeves start to surface. After all this is the person you love most in the whole world! How can they get on your last nerve the way they do?!  It is very simple. This is the person closest to you on every level. This the person you spend most if not all your time together so sooner or later there are going to be little things here or there that will pluck your nerves.  Every one and every relationship is different. That means not everyone's pet peeves are the same. 

  

                                          

       Pet peeves can go from small annoyances to extreme craziness!  It can be something small like the way they eat, leaving the toilet seat up, putting an empty milk carton back in the fridge, cover hog, stealing food off your plate, hogging the tv remote, or not asking for directions. Then there are bigger pet peeves that can cause fights and even be red flags in the relationship such as always being late, not cleaning up at yourself, saying crude or rude things, money behavior like spending to much money with out talking about it first, knowing your partner need sleep but wakes them up anyway, bad hygiene, or not listen when you have something important to tell them. When you start fighting about pet peeves that when it becomes an issue. Some pet peeves can be caused by a bigger underlining issue in the relationship like trust or respect. 

                  

       Don't sweat the small stuff. When dealing confronting pet peeves prioritize the highly annoying ones. So you don't overwhelm your partner only discuss one or two pet peeves at a time. You don't want to make it sound like a bigger issue then is really is so try your best to be delicate about how you address the issue you can. Try saying something like " This isn't a huge issue but I would really like to talk about it with you.". Only talk about the action that is getting on your nerves not the person his/her self. Remember you love them but you don't love their behavior so focus on the action. For example when approaching the issue say " I really wish you wouldn't leave your dirty clothes on the bathroom floor. Can you please put them in our hamper?" in stead of just saying " You are so lazy.".  After talking about your pet peeves ask them if they are will to work on it instead of coming of bossy or demanding they change their actions. You are not perfect so be prepared for your partner to bring up the pet peeves they have about you. A thank you goes a long way. You check more flies with honey then with vigor after all. Thank them for being willing to change and for listening. If they do make a improvement be sure to thank them for trying. This can be a learning lesson for the both of you. It isn't worth loosing something that could be great over. In stead of holding it in till you blow up try saying something as soon as you notice there could be an issue. Sooner is always better! Keep living! Keep Laughing! Keep loving! 

       

Relationships VS Trust

            

       Trust and Honesty go hand in hand in any good relationship. The recipe for a great long lasting relationship just won't work without these two accentual ingredients. Trust and honesty have to be built strong from day one! A willingness to be vulnerable is a significant feature of  lasting relationships. You want a relationship in which your partner is your allies not your foe. 

                    

    Where there is no trust there is no love and if there is no trust there is no us. Trust is like glass once you break it no matter how much you try to fix it or try to hold it together it not ever gonna be exactly how it was. A relationship with out trust is like have a cell phone that has no service....what do you do with it? You are just playing games on it. Once you break someone's trust it becomes a crack in the relationship. Just like a crack in a car windshield it starts small but with every bump in the road it just gets worse and worse. However you can't just fix your relationship like you would a windshield. Trust takes years to build up but only seconds to fall apart. 

                                     

    

      Once the trust has been broken you'll start rethinking everything starting back to the beginning. Do they mean it when they say they love me? Is it my fault?  Did he really go to the store or did he go somewhere he should be? How do I trust again? Will they lie again? Will I get hurt again? What else have they not been truthful about? You start second guessing everything your partner does or says. You wanna try to mend things but who's to say they won't lie again. You wanna make it work but you can't just pretend to forgive them when you are still hurting. Broken trust just brings tears and fights. So where do you go from here?

                   

      All is not lost! You can fix this crack in the windshield of your relationship. Broken trust is like the rock bottom in a relationship. What happens when you hit rock bottom? There is no place to go but up! There is no magic glue that will fix the trust that has been broken and it won't happen over night. First you have to be honest! If you plan to break that trust again. If you plan to lie again. Then walk away. Someone's heart isn't a cell phone without service. Don't just play games. If you aren't 100 percent invested just walk away. If you do wanna make it work its going to take work. Buying a dozen roses and a million sorrys just isn't gonna cut it. You have to rebuild from the grown up. When rebuilding the strongest foundation you can have is honesty. Once the both of you are ready sit down. This a important part. Even though you are hurt you need to let them come clean without fighting or interrupting. If you don't feel like you are ready to let them be honest without interrupting then wait till you are ready.  Once you sit down and get everything out on the table then you can start healing and moving forward. First after hearing the trust decide if you wanna really make it work and if it worth moving forward.  If it is worth is  Start slow. Don't rethink everything. You have to move forward not back. Give them a chance to make everything right. It will take both sides to make it work. You can't constantly accuse them of lying. If you aren't will to rebuild then walk away. Try your best to avoid a fight. Fighting fixes nothing. Take it slow. Grow. Remember there is no  where to go but up. Keep living. Keep learning. Keep loving.

       

Relationships vs Religion

   Relationships vs Religion



                                                   

     Pretty much most of the worlds population today believes in something!   No matter what religion it is all of them gave rules! Rules that make relationships confusing! Now different religions have different views on relationships and love. Some embrace it and then there are some that seem to be strict about who you can love and how you can love them. Like many thing religion can be a very big and stressful thing in any relationship. 

     Now I don't want it to seem like I am putting down any religion. I myself am catholic. I have made all the sacraments that I can right now.  i pray all the time for those I love. I got to church every Sunday morning. I went all though catholic education. I love God and my faith is strong in him. However that doesn't mean i believe in everything the catholic church believes in. Lets talk about SEX! It has been pounded in my head at a young age that sex was bad unless you where married and only doing it to breed babies! I'm sorry catholic church but I disagree with you on this one! Now I'm no sex maniac! I don't go spreading my legs for every tom, dick, and harry. I believe you don't have SEX you MAKE LOVE! Those are too very different things! You don't have to be married because marriage doesn't work for everyone out there. However you should be in love with the person you are giving yourself to. It should be someone who loves you not uses you. It should be with someone who you can see yourself spending forever with married or not.  I think God feels the same way.    After all the bible does say it is better to place your seed in the belly of a whore then waste it.

                                

     The church also has a lot to say about same sex couples. My option is....what does loving the same sex have anything to do with religion! Why can't two women or two men love each other and still love the lord. As long as they aren't hurting anyone why would the go to hell just for loving.  I believe God is fine with gay marriage and relationship! After all he did make them! He made them in his likeness! I believe we are all perfect and lovable in God's eyes. If he didn't want their to be gay people then he wouldn't have created any. The church is so fast the judge the wrong people.

        
                                              

       Another stressful thing about religion and relationship is couples with two different religions! Now you have double the rules to deal with! It is all so overwhelming!  What church to attend? What happens when we decide to get married? When we have kids what will religion will they follow? Then families get involved just added more stress. A Jewish mother will want her daughter to marry a nice Jewish boy. A nice catholic boy is expected to marry a nice church girl. Most the time if you do want to get married you have to convert. I think that's foolish! We all basically believe the same things! We all believe in God. We all pray. It doesn't matter where you worship. Just as long as you do.

 

     Here is my ADVICE! Love God and Love each other! There are so many things in today's world that stress out and and put  pressure on relationships don't add another. Don't read to much into the rules that religion ties onto relationships and what they should or shouldn't be. God loves us just the way he created up. Keep the faith. Pray as much as you can. Keep loving God! Never forget that he loves you! Be you! Keep living and keep loving.!

My Tattoo Story

          

                                    MY TATTOO STORY

        I have had a deep love for tattoos as far back as I can remember. My love for tattoos goes back to my grandfather. My first memories of my grandfather where his tattoos. He had two tattoos that where both done in Indian ink by himself when he was 15 years old. His first tattoo was my grandmother's name. I always loved this story. When they met my grandfather was 15 and my grandmother was 16 years old. They never met before but their best friends where going together. One day when my grandmother and her best friend where sitting on her front steps my grandfather came walking through the ally. He was a bad boy and my grandmother was a good girl. They where so different but my grandmother couldn't take her eyes off him. Her best friend noticed her staring and called him over. They hit it off and never left each other's side till my grandfather passed.  That night after meeting my grandmother he tattooed Dorthy on his right arm. I always asked him why he tattooed her name after just meeting her. He told me " I knew I would love her for the rest of my life. This way I always have her with me." I grew up know tattoos held powerful meanings. I couldn't wait to get tatted. When I was 10 years old I started calling tattoo shops!

             

                                     MY 1ST TATTOO!

       My 1st tattoo was a yellow and black tribal butterfly on my right shoulder. I was 16 years old when I got it done. I went with my uncle to get his tattoo dedicated to my grandfather (praying hands with candles) and he asked me if I wanted on. I had talked about getting a tattoo for years and here was my chance! I knew exactly what I wanted. To tell you the truth it didn't hurt what so ever! My tattoo artist said I took it like a sailor! Best compliment I ever got! I got this tattoo in honor of my grandfather. When he pasted my mom had a big red heart made out of roses from us grand kids. At his funeral a big yellow and black butterfly landed on the heart made of roses. My grandmother said it was my grandfather watching over us. Now even 5 years later I see yellow butterflies everywhere I go. Whenever I am feeling down or have a lot on my mind I see a yellow butterfly and know he his watching over me then I feel all better. I got my tattoo on my shoulder because that was symbol of my grandfather always looking over my shoulder and guiding me through the hard times.  I love my tattoo but not everyone loved it at first. I did it in secret so when I went home and my mom saw the badge she said "That better mean you got stab and not a tattoo!" Once we sat down and I told her what it meant to me she got it.  I still love it and 5 years later it still loves amazing!

               

                                        MY 2ND TATTOO!

       I got my second tattoo only 5 months after I got my first tattoo. My second tattoo is a heartagram on my slower back. I love this tattoo! It is a symbol of me growing up into a woman and leaving my hard stoned past behind me. Again I didn't feel much pain on this tattoo. It was more uncomfortable because I had to sit still bent over for two hours. This time I had permission from my mom because I got on her nerves till she said yes! The same artist did both of my tattoos. After 5 years it still looks great!

                              

       My advice for all you tattoo lovers who are thinking about getting your first tattoo is make it mean something! Never just get a tattoo to have one. That is when you'll regret it. Make it something important and something that means a lot to you. Don't worry about pain. It doesn't nearly hurt as bad as you think it will. It is worth the pain. Please don't get anything done by a guy that your friend's cousin's best friend got her tattoo by! If he is doing tattoos on his kitchen floor it is a no go! I may cost a little bit more but go to a repeatable tattoo shop. Do some research! Pick the best tattoo shop, tattoo artist, and tattoo design that works for you. Also do a tattoo for you no one else! I plan on much more tattoos to come! I'll keep you updated! Comment below I want to know about your tattoos and their meaning!

                                                                                                                XOXO WIZZY