Relationships VS Sex

Relationships VS Sex

       Sex and intimacy is very important in healthy relationship! Making love is a key way to connect with your partner on all levels. Lets face it making love in real life is far from what we see in the movies or read in our romance novels. If there you and your partner are talking about making that first step into intimacy or if you are a couple who are just looking to spice up things in the bed room I've got some sexy tips, tricks, and advice for you love birds! 

                                            

       Movies and romance novels make making love look so simple, easy, and perfect! That is just not how it works in real life. Sometimes positions don't always work and sometimes things just don't go as planned. Sometimes you may even get some weird body sounds. The most important thing is to be ready and be relaxed. Don't put too much pressure on yourself if you aren't ready then take your time! If your partner truly loves you and wants to be with you he/she will wait till you are ready. Before you can truly make love you have to love yourself. You have to love your body. You have to feel confident and sexy in your own skin. If you don't feel comfortable in your skin then you won't be comfortable when it comes time to make love. Take as much time as you need. If your partner is willing to wait but get antsy there are other things you can do with out having sex. If you aren't ready to make love but are comfortable about exploring other ways  of intimacy there are a few things you and your partner can try and can even bring you closer as a couple. 1) A make out session! Just relax and go with it. kissing can be so powerful and passionate that you don't even have to take your clothes off to enjoy it. 2) Some heavy petting 3) Male attention. If your man is being patient about waiting you should reward him with some special attention just for him! 4) Intimate messages 5) Masturbation. Touching yourself and each other can be great from getting sexually comfortable with each other. Once you are ready make it special. Plan a date that is special to the relationship. Talk it over with your partner. Plan a special night for the both of you. Make a nice dinner, light a few candles, draw a warm bubble bath for two, play some soft music, take your time with each other, get to know each other's bodies, and above all enjoy each other.

                                                                                                                                                               
                             


      You would think as you get older and as your relationship mature that sex and intimacy would get easier! Everyday stresses such as work, bills, money, children, and school can really hit hard in the bed room. Once you are officially a grown up and out on your own you become stressed out,tired, and just completely out of energy. After dealing with work, bills that need to be paid, annoying people, and hyper children all day the last think you wanna do is be sexy at the end of the night. After a hard day once your head hit the people you are normal knocked out! Sadly it has become ok to put intimacy on the back burner due to everyday life! That is so not ok! It is important to keep the fire burning in your relationship. It is important to be passionate with the man or woman you love. You still need to feel like a sexy woman and a wanted man.Some people let life get to them so much they stop kissing and even talking. To keep the passion going it is important to take some time out of life to be together and to be romantic. Here are a few things to keeping it hot in a long term relationship. 1) Date night! You should at least go out every two weeks on a romantic date. Go to a nice quite dinner, a romantic walk through a park or beach, catch the movie that you both been dying to see, or go to a concert. 2) A romantic get away. It doesn't have to be every month but once in a blue moon when you have a little extra money in the bank it is ok to go on a romantic weekend trip! The grandparents will love to have the grand-babies for a visit. 3)Dressing up! Trow in something sexy! Try a fun costume or lingerie. 4) Message oils and Lubricants. Have fun go shopping together and pick out new spicy things to try in the bed room.


                 


      Making love is all about loving yourself and your soul mate. It is about being full into your own body as well as your partners body. It isn't all about feeling good. It is about connecting on a new level. It is about becoming one with each other body and spirit. It is important to take your time if you aren't ready and not letting the fire die out. Remember that it is important with every new sexual relationship to protect your self and your partner. One of the first things to talk about when starting a sexual relationship is getting tested. You and your partner should both get tested before become sexually active. Talk about protection from pregnancy and STDS. Visit your doctor and make sure you are ready for sex. This is a big step in a relationship don't take it lightly. If your sex life isn't as steamy as it once one just add a little spice to it. Dress up and go out! Even on your most stressful days at the end of the night cuddle up and just talk about your day. If you don't have time for a full on date night schedule some mini dates during the week like a lunch date in the park. Practice make perfect! Don't sweat the small stuff! Have fun! Keep living! Keep loving!

Relationships VS Pet Peeves

Relationships vs Pet Peeves 

       It is inevitable in life and relationship to find something that is going to drive you nuts! That little something is called a pet peeve! We all have them. Even the nicest people in the world have pet peeves. It's just human nature to get annoyed. Pet peeves are not big deal and are normal however they can become a issue in a relationship depending on how big the peeve is. 

                                          

       Your significant other can do things that are as annoying or even more annoy then anyone else you come in contact with on  a daily basis.    If you are anything like me you tend to feel bad when it comes time in the relationship where pet peeves start to surface. After all this is the person you love most in the whole world! How can they get on your last nerve the way they do?!  It is very simple. This is the person closest to you on every level. This the person you spend most if not all your time together so sooner or later there are going to be little things here or there that will pluck your nerves.  Every one and every relationship is different. That means not everyone's pet peeves are the same. 

  

                                          

       Pet peeves can go from small annoyances to extreme craziness!  It can be something small like the way they eat, leaving the toilet seat up, putting an empty milk carton back in the fridge, cover hog, stealing food off your plate, hogging the tv remote, or not asking for directions. Then there are bigger pet peeves that can cause fights and even be red flags in the relationship such as always being late, not cleaning up at yourself, saying crude or rude things, money behavior like spending to much money with out talking about it first, knowing your partner need sleep but wakes them up anyway, bad hygiene, or not listen when you have something important to tell them. When you start fighting about pet peeves that when it becomes an issue. Some pet peeves can be caused by a bigger underlining issue in the relationship like trust or respect. 

                  

       Don't sweat the small stuff. When dealing confronting pet peeves prioritize the highly annoying ones. So you don't overwhelm your partner only discuss one or two pet peeves at a time. You don't want to make it sound like a bigger issue then is really is so try your best to be delicate about how you address the issue you can. Try saying something like " This isn't a huge issue but I would really like to talk about it with you.". Only talk about the action that is getting on your nerves not the person his/her self. Remember you love them but you don't love their behavior so focus on the action. For example when approaching the issue say " I really wish you wouldn't leave your dirty clothes on the bathroom floor. Can you please put them in our hamper?" in stead of just saying " You are so lazy.".  After talking about your pet peeves ask them if they are will to work on it instead of coming of bossy or demanding they change their actions. You are not perfect so be prepared for your partner to bring up the pet peeves they have about you. A thank you goes a long way. You check more flies with honey then with vigor after all. Thank them for being willing to change and for listening. If they do make a improvement be sure to thank them for trying. This can be a learning lesson for the both of you. It isn't worth loosing something that could be great over. In stead of holding it in till you blow up try saying something as soon as you notice there could be an issue. Sooner is always better! Keep living! Keep Laughing! Keep loving! 

       

Relationships vs Religion

   Relationships vs Religion



                                                   

     Pretty much most of the worlds population today believes in something!   No matter what religion it is all of them gave rules! Rules that make relationships confusing! Now different religions have different views on relationships and love. Some embrace it and then there are some that seem to be strict about who you can love and how you can love them. Like many thing religion can be a very big and stressful thing in any relationship. 

     Now I don't want it to seem like I am putting down any religion. I myself am catholic. I have made all the sacraments that I can right now.  i pray all the time for those I love. I got to church every Sunday morning. I went all though catholic education. I love God and my faith is strong in him. However that doesn't mean i believe in everything the catholic church believes in. Lets talk about SEX! It has been pounded in my head at a young age that sex was bad unless you where married and only doing it to breed babies! I'm sorry catholic church but I disagree with you on this one! Now I'm no sex maniac! I don't go spreading my legs for every tom, dick, and harry. I believe you don't have SEX you MAKE LOVE! Those are too very different things! You don't have to be married because marriage doesn't work for everyone out there. However you should be in love with the person you are giving yourself to. It should be someone who loves you not uses you. It should be with someone who you can see yourself spending forever with married or not.  I think God feels the same way.    After all the bible does say it is better to place your seed in the belly of a whore then waste it.

                                

     The church also has a lot to say about same sex couples. My option is....what does loving the same sex have anything to do with religion! Why can't two women or two men love each other and still love the lord. As long as they aren't hurting anyone why would the go to hell just for loving.  I believe God is fine with gay marriage and relationship! After all he did make them! He made them in his likeness! I believe we are all perfect and lovable in God's eyes. If he didn't want their to be gay people then he wouldn't have created any. The church is so fast the judge the wrong people.

        
                                              

       Another stressful thing about religion and relationship is couples with two different religions! Now you have double the rules to deal with! It is all so overwhelming!  What church to attend? What happens when we decide to get married? When we have kids what will religion will they follow? Then families get involved just added more stress. A Jewish mother will want her daughter to marry a nice Jewish boy. A nice catholic boy is expected to marry a nice church girl. Most the time if you do want to get married you have to convert. I think that's foolish! We all basically believe the same things! We all believe in God. We all pray. It doesn't matter where you worship. Just as long as you do.

 

     Here is my ADVICE! Love God and Love each other! There are so many things in today's world that stress out and and put  pressure on relationships don't add another. Don't read to much into the rules that religion ties onto relationships and what they should or shouldn't be. God loves us just the way he created up. Keep the faith. Pray as much as you can. Keep loving God! Never forget that he loves you! Be you! Keep living and keep loving.!