Relationships VS Pet Peeves

Relationships vs Pet Peeves 

       It is inevitable in life and relationship to find something that is going to drive you nuts! That little something is called a pet peeve! We all have them. Even the nicest people in the world have pet peeves. It's just human nature to get annoyed. Pet peeves are not big deal and are normal however they can become a issue in a relationship depending on how big the peeve is. 

                                          

       Your significant other can do things that are as annoying or even more annoy then anyone else you come in contact with on  a daily basis.    If you are anything like me you tend to feel bad when it comes time in the relationship where pet peeves start to surface. After all this is the person you love most in the whole world! How can they get on your last nerve the way they do?!  It is very simple. This is the person closest to you on every level. This the person you spend most if not all your time together so sooner or later there are going to be little things here or there that will pluck your nerves.  Every one and every relationship is different. That means not everyone's pet peeves are the same. 

  

                                          

       Pet peeves can go from small annoyances to extreme craziness!  It can be something small like the way they eat, leaving the toilet seat up, putting an empty milk carton back in the fridge, cover hog, stealing food off your plate, hogging the tv remote, or not asking for directions. Then there are bigger pet peeves that can cause fights and even be red flags in the relationship such as always being late, not cleaning up at yourself, saying crude or rude things, money behavior like spending to much money with out talking about it first, knowing your partner need sleep but wakes them up anyway, bad hygiene, or not listen when you have something important to tell them. When you start fighting about pet peeves that when it becomes an issue. Some pet peeves can be caused by a bigger underlining issue in the relationship like trust or respect. 

                  

       Don't sweat the small stuff. When dealing confronting pet peeves prioritize the highly annoying ones. So you don't overwhelm your partner only discuss one or two pet peeves at a time. You don't want to make it sound like a bigger issue then is really is so try your best to be delicate about how you address the issue you can. Try saying something like " This isn't a huge issue but I would really like to talk about it with you.". Only talk about the action that is getting on your nerves not the person his/her self. Remember you love them but you don't love their behavior so focus on the action. For example when approaching the issue say " I really wish you wouldn't leave your dirty clothes on the bathroom floor. Can you please put them in our hamper?" in stead of just saying " You are so lazy.".  After talking about your pet peeves ask them if they are will to work on it instead of coming of bossy or demanding they change their actions. You are not perfect so be prepared for your partner to bring up the pet peeves they have about you. A thank you goes a long way. You check more flies with honey then with vigor after all. Thank them for being willing to change and for listening. If they do make a improvement be sure to thank them for trying. This can be a learning lesson for the both of you. It isn't worth loosing something that could be great over. In stead of holding it in till you blow up try saying something as soon as you notice there could be an issue. Sooner is always better! Keep living! Keep Laughing! Keep loving! 

       

Relationships vs Religion

   Relationships vs Religion



                                                   

     Pretty much most of the worlds population today believes in something!   No matter what religion it is all of them gave rules! Rules that make relationships confusing! Now different religions have different views on relationships and love. Some embrace it and then there are some that seem to be strict about who you can love and how you can love them. Like many thing religion can be a very big and stressful thing in any relationship. 

     Now I don't want it to seem like I am putting down any religion. I myself am catholic. I have made all the sacraments that I can right now.  i pray all the time for those I love. I got to church every Sunday morning. I went all though catholic education. I love God and my faith is strong in him. However that doesn't mean i believe in everything the catholic church believes in. Lets talk about SEX! It has been pounded in my head at a young age that sex was bad unless you where married and only doing it to breed babies! I'm sorry catholic church but I disagree with you on this one! Now I'm no sex maniac! I don't go spreading my legs for every tom, dick, and harry. I believe you don't have SEX you MAKE LOVE! Those are too very different things! You don't have to be married because marriage doesn't work for everyone out there. However you should be in love with the person you are giving yourself to. It should be someone who loves you not uses you. It should be with someone who you can see yourself spending forever with married or not.  I think God feels the same way.    After all the bible does say it is better to place your seed in the belly of a whore then waste it.

                                

     The church also has a lot to say about same sex couples. My option is....what does loving the same sex have anything to do with religion! Why can't two women or two men love each other and still love the lord. As long as they aren't hurting anyone why would the go to hell just for loving.  I believe God is fine with gay marriage and relationship! After all he did make them! He made them in his likeness! I believe we are all perfect and lovable in God's eyes. If he didn't want their to be gay people then he wouldn't have created any. The church is so fast the judge the wrong people.

        
                                              

       Another stressful thing about religion and relationship is couples with two different religions! Now you have double the rules to deal with! It is all so overwhelming!  What church to attend? What happens when we decide to get married? When we have kids what will religion will they follow? Then families get involved just added more stress. A Jewish mother will want her daughter to marry a nice Jewish boy. A nice catholic boy is expected to marry a nice church girl. Most the time if you do want to get married you have to convert. I think that's foolish! We all basically believe the same things! We all believe in God. We all pray. It doesn't matter where you worship. Just as long as you do.

 

     Here is my ADVICE! Love God and Love each other! There are so many things in today's world that stress out and and put  pressure on relationships don't add another. Don't read to much into the rules that religion ties onto relationships and what they should or shouldn't be. God loves us just the way he created up. Keep the faith. Pray as much as you can. Keep loving God! Never forget that he loves you! Be you! Keep living and keep loving.!

50 Facts About My Relationship

                              

                      50 Facts About My Relationship

1. We met on February 15 at 10:50pm though Facebook! I was feeling at the end of my rope. I was in a very dark place. I was thinking about ending it all that night. I prayed to God to send me someone. Send me a season to live. Little did I know there was someone not that far away who was going through the same thing. I posted a status with my number in it. About 5 minutes later Charlie texted  me "Hi:)". He changed everything. 
2. It was love at first txt. I told him everything about my past, what I have been through, and everything about me. 
3. I am 2 years older then Charlie so he never thought he had a chance and I never thought I was good enough for him.
4. We became  official on February 17, 2010
5. We had our first date on February 27, 2010 at a bowling alley
6. We had our first kiss on my coach on February 28, 2010
7. He was my very first kiss
8. He was 16 and I was 18 when we got together
9. His full name is Charles Rex Hellmann II but if he was born a girl his name would have been Elizabeth Ann Hellmann which is my name.
10. He proposed on our first Valentines day on the swing set at a play ground we went to the first time we saw each other and where we use to always sit and talk. 
11. Our wedding is set for his birthday June 17, 2017
12. He use to take the bus to my house every single day to see me
13. We have been with each other every single day scene the day we first kissed
14. We moved in together in May when we had only been dating 3 months
15. We said I love you for the first time only after 2 weeks of dating
16. We got to see each other graduate High School
17. He was the first guy I every said I love you to
18. He was the first guy I ever made love to
19. We will be together 4 years this February
20. When I had to have surgery he never left my side unless he went to school. He would stay up all night with me then go to school then come right back to the hospital after he got out of school
21. He went to my senor prom and I got to go to his senor and junior prom
22. The first night we every spent the night was up his dad's house in PA
23. The first meal he every made was pop tarts and burritos
24. Every night before bed we say to each other "I love you more. Infinity and Beyond"
25. We never fight. We may disagree time to time but we always talk through it
26. We never go to bed angry
27. We have had a lot of haters though our relationship
28. He plans on being a police officer 
29. We both had very different paths. I had a place and a job lined up in California and he was going to be a marine but we where each other's reasons to stay
30. We grew up only 15 miles from each other
31. He is super close to my little brother and I am super close to his older brother John. 
32. We are truly best friends
33. We tell each other everything and we talk through everything with each other
34. We plan on having three boys Jackson Cash, Ricky James, and Phoenix Rex.
35. We are going to raise all our boys to be football players. NFL here we come!
36. I love our inside secrets and joke
37. He loves the southern charm in my voice and I love his baby blue charming bed room eyes
38. We love to spend out days playing video games together and watching movies
39. Our first summer together we stayed up all night every night and watched movies. We watched every movie in my house by the end of summer.
40. We both went to our first wedding together
41. He was the first boy I ever spent the night with and I was the first girl he spent the night with
42. He LOVES my famous PB&Js
43. We have a very weird love. It is one of a kind for sure but i wouldn't change it for any other love in the world
44. He gives the best hugs
45. He gives the best kisses and he has the sexiest lips
46. He is the nicest guy in the world. He has the biggest heart and finds the best in everyone. 
47. He is so giving. He would give the shirt off his back to anyone who needed it
48. I wish I could be half the person he is
49. He has been told he is so polite it makes people sick. lol
50. Charlie is really the last of a dieing breed. He still believes in treating women like women. He is truly a gentleman. He holds the door open and helps me out of the car. He is my prince charming. He is my everything and I don't deserve him but I am so blessed that fate, God, and destiny brought us together. I don't know what I would do without him in my life. He is my rock. He holds me down. We always have each other's backs. We live life to the fullest and love harder amd more then anyone could ever love someone else. We live every day by our vows. Through sickness and health we have been together. Through thick and thin we stand strong. From richer or poor we make it work. We promise to be true to one another through the good and bad. We will love and honor each other till death do us part. Our love will live on infinity and beyond.