Relationships vs Pet Peeves
It is inevitable in life and relationship to find something that is going to drive you nuts! That little something is called a pet peeve! We all have them. Even the nicest people in the world have pet peeves. It's just human nature to get annoyed. Pet peeves are not big deal and are normal however they can become a issue in a relationship depending on how big the peeve is.
Your significant other can do things that are as annoying or even more annoy then anyone else you come in contact with on a daily basis. If you are anything like me you tend to feel bad when it comes time in the relationship where pet peeves start to surface. After all this is the person you love most in the whole world! How can they get on your last nerve the way they do?! It is very simple. This is the person closest to you on every level. This the person you spend most if not all your time together so sooner or later there are going to be little things here or there that will pluck your nerves. Every one and every relationship is different. That means not everyone's pet peeves are the same.
Pet peeves can go from small annoyances to extreme craziness! It can be something small like the way they eat, leaving the toilet seat up, putting an empty milk carton back in the fridge, cover hog, stealing food off your plate, hogging the tv remote, or not asking for directions. Then there are bigger pet peeves that can cause fights and even be red flags in the relationship such as always being late, not cleaning up at yourself, saying crude or rude things, money behavior like spending to much money with out talking about it first, knowing your partner need sleep but wakes them up anyway, bad hygiene, or not listen when you have something important to tell them. When you start fighting about pet peeves that when it becomes an issue. Some pet peeves can be caused by a bigger underlining issue in the relationship like trust or respect.
Don't sweat the small stuff. When dealing confronting pet peeves prioritize the highly annoying ones. So you don't overwhelm your partner only discuss one or two pet peeves at a time. You don't want to make it sound like a bigger issue then is really is so try your best to be delicate about how you address the issue you can. Try saying something like " This isn't a huge issue but I would really like to talk about it with you.". Only talk about the action that is getting on your nerves not the person his/her self. Remember you love them but you don't love their behavior so focus on the action. For example when approaching the issue say " I really wish you wouldn't leave your dirty clothes on the bathroom floor. Can you please put them in our hamper?" in stead of just saying " You are so lazy.". After talking about your pet peeves ask them if they are will to work on it instead of coming of bossy or demanding they change their actions. You are not perfect so be prepared for your partner to bring up the pet peeves they have about you. A thank you goes a long way. You check more flies with honey then with vigor after all. Thank them for being willing to change and for listening. If they do make a improvement be sure to thank them for trying. This can be a learning lesson for the both of you. It isn't worth loosing something that could be great over. In stead of holding it in till you blow up try saying something as soon as you notice there could be an issue. Sooner is always better! Keep living! Keep Laughing! Keep loving!
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