Relationships VS Trust

            

       Trust and Honesty go hand in hand in any good relationship. The recipe for a great long lasting relationship just won't work without these two accentual ingredients. Trust and honesty have to be built strong from day one! A willingness to be vulnerable is a significant feature of  lasting relationships. You want a relationship in which your partner is your allies not your foe. 

                    

    Where there is no trust there is no love and if there is no trust there is no us. Trust is like glass once you break it no matter how much you try to fix it or try to hold it together it not ever gonna be exactly how it was. A relationship with out trust is like have a cell phone that has no service....what do you do with it? You are just playing games on it. Once you break someone's trust it becomes a crack in the relationship. Just like a crack in a car windshield it starts small but with every bump in the road it just gets worse and worse. However you can't just fix your relationship like you would a windshield. Trust takes years to build up but only seconds to fall apart. 

                                     

    

      Once the trust has been broken you'll start rethinking everything starting back to the beginning. Do they mean it when they say they love me? Is it my fault?  Did he really go to the store or did he go somewhere he should be? How do I trust again? Will they lie again? Will I get hurt again? What else have they not been truthful about? You start second guessing everything your partner does or says. You wanna try to mend things but who's to say they won't lie again. You wanna make it work but you can't just pretend to forgive them when you are still hurting. Broken trust just brings tears and fights. So where do you go from here?

                   

      All is not lost! You can fix this crack in the windshield of your relationship. Broken trust is like the rock bottom in a relationship. What happens when you hit rock bottom? There is no place to go but up! There is no magic glue that will fix the trust that has been broken and it won't happen over night. First you have to be honest! If you plan to break that trust again. If you plan to lie again. Then walk away. Someone's heart isn't a cell phone without service. Don't just play games. If you aren't 100 percent invested just walk away. If you do wanna make it work its going to take work. Buying a dozen roses and a million sorrys just isn't gonna cut it. You have to rebuild from the grown up. When rebuilding the strongest foundation you can have is honesty. Once the both of you are ready sit down. This a important part. Even though you are hurt you need to let them come clean without fighting or interrupting. If you don't feel like you are ready to let them be honest without interrupting then wait till you are ready.  Once you sit down and get everything out on the table then you can start healing and moving forward. First after hearing the trust decide if you wanna really make it work and if it worth moving forward.  If it is worth is  Start slow. Don't rethink everything. You have to move forward not back. Give them a chance to make everything right. It will take both sides to make it work. You can't constantly accuse them of lying. If you aren't will to rebuild then walk away. Try your best to avoid a fight. Fighting fixes nothing. Take it slow. Grow. Remember there is no  where to go but up. Keep living. Keep learning. Keep loving.

       

Relationships vs Religion

   Relationships vs Religion



                                                   

     Pretty much most of the worlds population today believes in something!   No matter what religion it is all of them gave rules! Rules that make relationships confusing! Now different religions have different views on relationships and love. Some embrace it and then there are some that seem to be strict about who you can love and how you can love them. Like many thing religion can be a very big and stressful thing in any relationship. 

     Now I don't want it to seem like I am putting down any religion. I myself am catholic. I have made all the sacraments that I can right now.  i pray all the time for those I love. I got to church every Sunday morning. I went all though catholic education. I love God and my faith is strong in him. However that doesn't mean i believe in everything the catholic church believes in. Lets talk about SEX! It has been pounded in my head at a young age that sex was bad unless you where married and only doing it to breed babies! I'm sorry catholic church but I disagree with you on this one! Now I'm no sex maniac! I don't go spreading my legs for every tom, dick, and harry. I believe you don't have SEX you MAKE LOVE! Those are too very different things! You don't have to be married because marriage doesn't work for everyone out there. However you should be in love with the person you are giving yourself to. It should be someone who loves you not uses you. It should be with someone who you can see yourself spending forever with married or not.  I think God feels the same way.    After all the bible does say it is better to place your seed in the belly of a whore then waste it.

                                

     The church also has a lot to say about same sex couples. My option is....what does loving the same sex have anything to do with religion! Why can't two women or two men love each other and still love the lord. As long as they aren't hurting anyone why would the go to hell just for loving.  I believe God is fine with gay marriage and relationship! After all he did make them! He made them in his likeness! I believe we are all perfect and lovable in God's eyes. If he didn't want their to be gay people then he wouldn't have created any. The church is so fast the judge the wrong people.

        
                                              

       Another stressful thing about religion and relationship is couples with two different religions! Now you have double the rules to deal with! It is all so overwhelming!  What church to attend? What happens when we decide to get married? When we have kids what will religion will they follow? Then families get involved just added more stress. A Jewish mother will want her daughter to marry a nice Jewish boy. A nice catholic boy is expected to marry a nice church girl. Most the time if you do want to get married you have to convert. I think that's foolish! We all basically believe the same things! We all believe in God. We all pray. It doesn't matter where you worship. Just as long as you do.

 

     Here is my ADVICE! Love God and Love each other! There are so many things in today's world that stress out and and put  pressure on relationships don't add another. Don't read to much into the rules that religion ties onto relationships and what they should or shouldn't be. God loves us just the way he created up. Keep the faith. Pray as much as you can. Keep loving God! Never forget that he loves you! Be you! Keep living and keep loving.!

Hello June!

                                




            It's June!!! I can't believe it! Where did May go?! June is one of my favorite months! There is so much going on in the month of June. For starts we have father's day! Then in that same week it's Charlie's ( my incredible hubby) 21st birthday!. Because it is his 21st birthday we have to go big! You only turn 21 once! So his birthday is going to be a week long affair. We will be doing several different family party and friend get together. We both have that week off and I am over the moon excited! A week after Charlie's birthday is my brother in law John's  birthday. Not to mention our 4 year and 4 month anniversary is on Charlie's birthday. Add in blogging and work! We have a very busy month a head of us! WELCOME JUNE!

Scariest Thing Tag!

                 

                           SCARIEST THING TAG!!!!

          I am not ashamed to admit....I AM A BIG FAT SCAREDY CAT! I am afraid of the dark! I can't watch scary movies I just hide my head in my hubby's chest and shake in fear! I tell myself it's just a movie but that doesn't stop me from freaking out then having to watch old Disney movies to calm me down! I thought this tag would be a perfect for a scaredy cat like me! Enjoy!!! Feel free to leave a comment what scares you! 

1)  Scariest real-life experience?

              Three years ago I had to get surgery to have my gallbladder removed. I just woke up in the middle of the night with the worse pain I had ever felt. I was terrified because I had no idea what was going on. I was rushed to the hospital where they gave me different pain pills but nothing worked until they gave me a morphine drip! When I came out of surgery the doctor told me the infection was much worse then they thought. When they opened me up the air hit the infection and it started to spread. My heart rate and blood pressure started to plummet. They almost lost me on the table. I ended up in the hospital for a whole week! 

2)   Scariest paranormal experience?

              This happens a lot in my family. We are huge believes of spirits and the paranormal. My biggest and scariest experience was one day I was pulling my clean clothes out of the driver I bent over and I felt something extremely cold go through the center of my chest lingers for a moment then exiting through my back. I felt like I was blacked out for hours but it was only a few seconds. I didn't even know it but I let out a blood curtailing scream! I wasn't myself the whole day after that!

3)   Have you know anyone convicted of a violent crime?

             Yes

4)   Are you afraid of the dark?

              Yes! I hate the dark! If I have to pass through a room that is dark I just run through as fast as I can! The only was I can sleep in the dark is when I have my brave hubby to hold on to.

5)   What is your greatest fear?

              My greatest fear is losing the ones I love more then anything! I have lost so many people that mean the world to me. It is the worst feeling in the world.

6)    Scariest movie?

              I hate the SAW movies!! If I even see a second of them I won't sleep for weeks!

7)   Does your hometown/city have any scary stories tied to it?

           YES! Baltimore is full of scary urban legends! 

New Year! New You!

                                               
                                                 New Year....New Me!



          With the 2014 year upon us I have totally been focused on a new chapter in my life. This year I plan to buckle down! Buckle down with my future, my health, and my finances. I finally have an amazing job that I enjoy so much! So 2014 is the time to focus on my hustle and my money. I have been working a few days a week so I have saved up a few checks. This week is going to be a big week in buckling down for me because this week me and the hubby are heading to the bank to open my very first my very own bank account. This is defiantly a sign of growth and it will help me a lot with saving my money. My plan it to put all my money in the bank, starting to pay of my debts, and saving up for our car. If everything goes as planned I will have my dept cleared in the next year! Also big for me in the new year is getting my health where I want it to be. For a while I was getting back on track but then I fell off a bit. I am really determined to get my body and mind right! My goal weight is 120. My goal size is small. I also want to be able to complete a hike by the end of summer and look good in high waist shorts and a crop top. My goal for the new year is just to perfect my body and my life. What's your goals for the new year? Comment below!

Hello march! <3

It's hard to believe it already march! I do have to admit it doesn't feel like March with this crazy Baltimore weather! I sure am ready for spring! I'm ready for the nice spring days full of sunshine and the freshly  bloomed flowers. I am welcomeing March with opened arms! March is all about the money and the hustle! This month I am slowly going back to work. In March I will be working 1-3 days a week. Then in April I will start working full time. I am very excited to get back to my hustle. This month I will be opening my first bank account. I will also start putting money away and saving up. We are very busy with football this month. My hubby now plays for a semi pro team. Of course I am the camera lady. Very proud to be! We are working with a great team! We have practices and games every weekend so football is definitely keeping us busy in March. We are also starting to look at car! This is very exciting! We are both saving up for a car that is going to make life so much easier. Right now we are just window shopping to see what works best for us. I am also getting my body back where I would like it! That means hitting the gym and working out at home. It also means cutting of fast foods! Ugh! Dreading that! I love me some McDonald's! But I want my dream beach body and I am willing to work hard for it! So what's ya'll plans for March?! Comment below! <3

I GOT A JOB!!!

                  



          I am so excited to announce that I am officially employed! I am now a full time nanny for two great families! I am caring for two newborns. A baby girl named Ryan and a baby boy name Leo. I love the families and the kids are amazing. The families contacted me through the website sittercity.com. We hit it off right away! I can't wait to finally start working again. I am so grateful for the time I had off to just be a wifey and focus on my blogs but I can't wait to start making money again. When I got the call I got the job I felt like a weight had been lifted off of me. After looking for so long and interview after interview it felt great to get that call. It also feels great that the families are excited to work with me as well. I feel like I am ready to turn to the next chapter of my life. It will be hard for a while. It will take a while to adjust to not being there and waking up with my hubby. It will be hard leaving him in the mornings and by the time I get home he will already be at work. So we are going to loose a lot of time with each other but he will also  be getting another job in June and then we will be on the same work schedule. I am so ready to get my hustle on! :)